tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11007391.post114936574440228506..comments2013-06-04T03:43:20.123+08:00Comments on Meandering Thoughts: MISYAR ME PLEASE.....NOT!JIEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11809452700696143175noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11007391.post-1149738505162623422006-06-08T11:48:00.000+08:002006-06-08T11:48:00.000+08:00Yuu actually cannot put words into the medias mout...Yuu actually cannot put words into the medias mouth... they'll say what they want as they have big bosses that answer to bigger bosses... lately medias' new aresenal is to use intelectuals to strengthen an issue... that makes the scholar look dumb... so you think your ex teacher from UM really said this? be sure... i'm seeing a ot of parallelism between media tactics between democratic nations... off topic dah ni...Izhalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16740277870184928330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11007391.post-1149699164326025932006-06-08T00:52:00.000+08:002006-06-08T00:52:00.000+08:00muslimz87,Thank you, your feedback is very much ap...muslimz87,<BR/><BR/>Thank you, your feedback is very much appreciated. What was written earlier is my own opinion based on discussions & interviews in the media and is not meant as a religious statement. I think a small percentage of married couples already apply this concept without realizing it actually exists and recognized as 'misyar', but if both parties are agreeable even though it is against the norm, then so be it, caveat emptor.<BR/><BR/>What I am concerned about is if it is legalized, some people may take advantage of it by marrying for sexual purposes only, which in the end may leave the other party in dire straits. Just like the concept of poligamy was initialized back then out of necessity, when many men had died in wars leaving widows and children who needed to be protected by other men as their second, third or fourth families. How many people these days take on widows and divorcees only as their second, third or fourth wives, for the sake of building up the ummah as a religious duty?<BR/><BR/>Brother, I do not wish to argue with Allah's rules. The rules are divine and just, but the application by some of us might be waylaid so as to seem unfair. And it doesn't help either if in trying to educate the public, learned scholars make statements or explain it in a way that insults some of us.<BR/><BR/>Thank you again for your kind info, please do drop by often. One of the beauties of blogs is that we can all learn from each other :-)JIEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11809452700696143175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11007391.post-1149697041423699222006-06-08T00:17:00.000+08:002006-06-08T00:17:00.000+08:00Hi Izhal,Those are pretty strong words, bro :-) So...Hi Izhal,<BR/><BR/>Those are pretty strong words, bro :-) Sometimes the world becomes black & white, no fuzzy greys, where good guys get rich and the babes, and bad guys get jailtime and repent. And then suddenly the alarm clock rings, and we wake up to the real world and drag our sorry butts to the office just like we did yesterday. Reality bites lah...<BR/><BR/>The scholar I quoted is a lecturer in UM, and I don't think I've come across any blatant statements from him before. Oh well, if the media did quote him wrongly, he should get them to correct it.JIEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11809452700696143175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11007391.post-1149440971267267012006-06-05T01:09:00.000+08:002006-06-05T01:09:00.000+08:00Petikan Ceramah Nikah Misyar oleh Dr Asri Zainul A...Petikan Ceramah Nikah Misyar oleh Dr Asri Zainul Abidin<BR/><BR/>Ulama' Khilaf Dalam Membolehkan Pernikahan Misyar:<BR/><BR/>1) Mereka yang mengharamkan: Sheikh Nasiruddin al-Albani dan beberapa ulama lain. Alasan mereka ialah kerana tidak sampai maksud perkahwinan iaitu kewajipan suami kepada isteri seperti nafkah, tempat tinggal dan lain-lain.<BR/><BR/>2) Tidak memberikan hukum: Ulama yang berpendapat sebegini ialah Sheikh Shalil al-Uthaimin.<BR/><BR/>3) Menghalalkan akan tetapi tidak menggalakkannya. Dipegang oleh Dr. Yusuf al-Qaradhawi dan beberapa ulama' lain. Majma' Fiqh Islam Sedunia membenarkannya.<BR/><BR/>Alasan mereka yang membenarkan ialah:<BR/>1) Bukan suami yang mengambil hak isteri, akan tetapi si isteri yang menawarkan untuk haknya ditarik. Sebagai contoh seorang wanita berkata kepada seorang lelaki bahawa lelaki tersebut tidak perlu menanggung kewangannya, dan hanya tinggal bersamanya beberapa hari sahaja. Dalam kes ini wanita tersebut sendiri yang menawarkan haknya untuk dikurangkan. Ini sama seperti kes isteri Nabi Muhammad SAW, Ummul Mukminin Saudah yang memberikan giliran harinya untuk bersama Rasulullah SAW kepada Ummul Mukminin 'Aisyah RA.<BR/><BR/>2) Bukan suami yang meminta hak itu dikurangkan, sebaliknya wanita tersebut yang menawarkannya.<BR/><BR/>3) Seeloknya di siasat benarkah isteri itu memang benar-benar sanggup menyerahkan haknya atau hanya cakap sahaja ketika sedang kemaruk cinta. Sebagai contoh, jika dia berkata bahawa si lelaki tidak perlu menanggung kewangannya, maka perlulah bertanya benarkah dia memang betul-betul mampu menanggung dirinya sendiri tanpa tanggungan suami, dan benarkah dia memang rela untuk mengurangkan haknya.<BR/><BR/>Pro dan Kontra:<BR/>Pro:<BR/>1) Perkahwinan ini dapat mengurangkan jumlah wanita yang tidak berkahwin.<BR/>2) Meredakan tekanan emosi bagi wanita berkerjaya yang mahu bersuami tetapi ramai lelaki yang enggan kerana takut untuk menanggung wanita berpendapatan tinggi.<BR/>3) Mengurangkan maksiat zina dan muqaddimah zina lebih-lebih lagi kepada golongan muda seperti pelajar-pelajar universiti, lebih-lebih lagi kebanyakan mereka sudah mempunyai pasangan masing-masing, becintan-cintun, dan ke hulu ke hilir dengan bukan mahram.<BR/><BR/>Kontra:<BR/>1) Takut-takut berlaku penindasan ke atas wanita.<BR/>2) Masalah jika si isteri mengungkit-ungkit.Mohd Masri bin Mohd Ramlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04137884860599203128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11007391.post-1149433952765956772006-06-04T23:12:00.000+08:002006-06-04T23:12:00.000+08:00we are actually lead by an outpost of the dajal's ...we are actually lead by an outpost of the dajal's gomen... look at the policies they make, the symbols they use, the grand buildings and projects they undertake which one building has been described in 2 of the 4 books... the new version of religion they unleash etc... i dont want to go deep in my theories here, just let me be happy with them :) kawin misyar, logo halal, OIC and all is a big scam...<BR/><BR/>just wondering who's the prof that you're talking about??? i want to look her/his articles up and see... i bet media twisted his/her words? ada bezaka ngan what he/she tought you way back when you were a scholar? i mean whats orinted in the papers and how he/she used to teach... if berbeza, media is at it again... <BR/><BR/>ps-thanks for the visit after your 100th posting... hope your car is running safe again :) AMIN...Izhalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16740277870184928330noreply@blogger.com